My eldest brother has just had a cancerous growth removed from his back.........Now this man is a shit, when my parents died in 2009 he and his wife said that there was no need whatsoever for them to come to Liverpool anymore. Now he is looking for compassion from his family (95% of them reside in Liverpool). He is a selfish individual. Is it me that is wrong , because I have no sympathy for him, my family want me to change but he really is a horrible selfish person. My family are trying to make me feel guilty....... I don't at all. Am I in the wrong , or should I just forget all the Sh*t I've had to put up with in the past. For Example in the 70s When I grew my hair, he and his wife refused to go out for a drink with me , just because I had long hair. I don't think I am being unreasonable , he texted me to try and explain why his family (he has 5 children, the eldest is 51). It made no sense,