Death

[ally]

Well, Thursday morning, September 23, my mom passed.

We had a simple, informal graveside service Tuesday the 28th in Alabama, where my dad is buried.

We didn't have any clergy leading the service, just me and my 2 older brothers.

We each took time to say the things we wanted to say, and it was nice.

All those things I felt in the above post are still true, but I'm still terribly sad that she's actually gone.

I miss her, but it's comforting to know she is no longer suffering, and more importantly, she doesn't feel the confusion and frustration I know she felt constantly from Alzheimer's.

Bessie Mae Harper

July 10, 1922 September 23, 2010

I'm sorry for your loss . It's been a year since my mother in law passed away and almost a year since my own mom was diagnosed terminal. There isn't a day go by that I don't think of both of them but I get comfort out of knowing they are in a better place and no longer suffering.

Edited October 6, 2010 by ally

[silvermedalist]

The list just never stops growing of people I know that have died. A couple at my wedding back in 05, friend of my wife's(her husband) was sick for a long time. He passed away Sunday, cancer. She had moved out but did help him to the end checking on him and such. But I dont think the family that were around were very understanding, as she was not even mentioned in the obit. I dant blame them to be honest. I had another friend pass last month at 55. I have seen many ex co workers never live to see their pension. We just dont know how much time we have. Ever. Now, I think I need some more Led Zeppelin stuff!

[redrum]

Well, Thursday morning, September 23, my mom passed.

We had a simple, informal graveside service Tuesday the 28th in Alabama, where my dad is buried.

We didn't have any clergy leading the service, just me and my 2 older brothers.

We each took time to say the things we wanted to say, and it was nice.

All those things I felt in the above post are still true, but I'm still terribly sad that she's actually gone.

I miss her, but it's comforting to know she is no longer suffering, and more importantly, she doesn't feel the confusion and frustration I know she felt constantly from Alzheimer's.

Bessie Mae Harper

July 10, 1922 – September 23, 2010

Very sorry to hear. I live next to my landlady and she is 86 and doesn't really have Alzheimer's but does suffer from not being able to say what she wants to say and you kinda have to coax the words out of her. This only happened a few years back when she went to California for some kind of cancer treatment and she came back from it not even remembering her name. But she's made a lot of progress since and she even rides her electric motor scooter into town. Her hubby passed a few years back so she is grateful that I am so close because her sister and family members live way out of town.

[ally]

The list just never stops growing of people I know that have died. A couple at my wedding back in 05, friend of my wife's(her husband) was sick for a long time. He passed away Sunday, cancer. She had moved out but did help him to the end checking on him and such. But I dont think the family that were around were very understanding, as she was not even mentioned in the obit. I dant blame them to be honest. I had another friend pass last month at 55. I have seen many ex co workers never live to see their pension. We just dont know how much time we have. Ever. Now, I think I need some more Led Zeppelin stuff!

There's a lesson for all of us in this thread and that is to live today like there is no tomorrow. That doesn't mean that we have to be reckless or throw caution to the wind but it does mean that we should follow our instincts and be happy with our lives

[Deborah J]

Well, Thursday morning, September 23, my mom passed.

We had a simple, informal graveside service Tuesday the 28th in Alabama, where my dad is buried.

We didn't have any clergy leading the service, just me and my 2 older brothers.

We each took time to say the things we wanted to say, and it was nice.

All those things I felt in the above post are still true, but I'm still terribly sad that she's actually gone.

I miss her, but it's comforting to know she is no longer suffering, and more importantly, she doesn't feel the confusion and frustration I know she felt constantly from Alzheimer's.

Bessie Mae Harper

July 10, 1922 – September 23, 2010

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom this past February. She was my rock and I miss her everyday. I can only hope that I live my life to make her proud of me.

[redrum]

I completely agree. When we had to have our dog put to sleep a few years ago my mum and I cried for days (my mum still can't look at her pciture without crying). It was so tough. It is like losing a family member. Unless you've owned a pet it's difficult to understand. Other members may laugh at this, but I couldn't care less. Last summer I had to have my pet guinea pig, Maisy, put to sleep. She was 8, so she'd been with me a long time. She was so clever, she would look up when I said her name and lick my hand in affection. We buried her body in our back garden, and I feel very sad when I look across to where her body lies. She had a good innings, but I still really miss her.

In terms of family members, the death that effected me the most was when my uncle died when he was 36. He commited suicide after a relationship break-up. My grandmother went round to his house after nobody had seen him for several days, looked through his letterbox and saw his body hanging in the hall. She's never been the same since. The sad thing is I was only getting into Zeppelin when he died, and he was a big fan of the band and played the electric guitar. I often think about how much we would have had in common and all the shared experiences we missed out on.

Some people may say that death is a natural progression of life, but not when people die young it isn't. And even when they die when they're old it's still heart-breaking. I'm not a believer, but sometimes I wish I was. Grief is the most difficult thing to go through, and I really feel for everyone on here who have lost loved ones.

When I lost my one cat Tiger I cried my eyes out. I had brought him up to Washington with me and he was such a good cat.

He had a purr like an idling diesel truck. I put him in his bed and made a box and buried him right outside my door in the flowerbed.

I've lost others since but he was the best.

[Lake of Shadows]

Well, Thursday morning, September 23, my mom passed.

We had a simple, informal graveside service Tuesday the 28th in Alabama, where my dad is buried.

We didn't have any clergy leading the service, just me and my 2 older brothers.

We each took time to say the things we wanted to say, and it was nice.

All those things I felt in the above post are still true, but I'm still terribly sad that she's actually gone.

I miss her, but it's comforting to know she is no longer suffering, and more importantly, she doesn't feel the confusion and frustration I know she felt constantly from Alzheimer's.

Bessie Mae Harper

July 10, 1922 – September 23, 2010

I'm sorry for your loss and glad you can find some comfort that she is at rest. I love that picture you posted of her. Her face shows a lot of character.

We gotta hug the ones we love while we can. Peace to you and your family.

[JethroTull]

I haven't been around much lately. Recently received some unfortunate news about a loved one. I'm very worried and concerned. That makes two family member who are currently facing serious medical conditions.

[GoneFishing]

I know it's a subject most would want to avoid or think about. But as I grow older I got to thinking of all the people and family I've known that are no longer living and it's a fairly long list. I don't want to bring anyone down or bum you out but here is a list of those I've known who have already passed on. I also come from a big family (13 kids)

In no particular order going back to 1975:

Mother (first death in the family I had to deal with)

Father

3 brothers (one brother's wife recently passed)

4 sisters

2 nephews

1 niece

There's also many relatives spread around the country that I have no count of.

Friends:

Audie (neighborhood friend)

Sidney (friend at work)

Joe (not really a friend, but he was the son of Sidney)

Jose (friend at work)

Ralph (childhood friend)

Dave (acquaitance)

It always has an effect on you when you hear of a death and it never gets easy. The most recent being my Brother's wife Helen who died about 2 weeks ago in California.

You never know when the Reaper will come but I can only say that I hope we all can live a long life.

Buried a Father,the father of my children(father to 7), a son,and most recently my lover and friend of 8 yrs Joe Aug.28th whom died on the couch of an overdose......only way to go on for me is to Live through it and grab all the sunsnine/ moonshine and heart I can and carry them with me in my heart ........love whom you Love unconditionally and say what ya want when ya want don't hold back much ... glad I lived the hell outta life with them good and bad and sometimes it is a bit much and I think of my Father who buried his entire family and he always said..

."Smile and the world smiles with you ...Cry and you Cry Alone..." here is to life

[redrum]

I haven't been around much lately. Recently received some unfortunate news about a loved one. I'm very worried and concerned. That makes two family member who are currently facing serious medical conditions.

Uncertainty is the worst part.

Hope all works out well.

[danelectro]

Not something I usually post about but...I own a biz and a young customer I've become familar with, mostly because she struggles to maintain what is contractually obligated, as in lots of contract discussion about payments, late etc. Well she was killed in a head on, in the car I sold her, on the way to make her car payment on the what are becoming dangerous county roads. Her 5 week old son and was killed and her 3 yr old daughter is hanging on. At 23 she is gone because she was on the way to pay for the 2003 Neon I sold her. Can't say I feel good about that. RIP Tanya.

[aeonblue]

When I lost my one cat Tiger I cried my eyes out. I had brought him up to Washington with me and he was such a good cat.

He had a purr like an idling diesel truck. I put him in his bed and made a box and buried him right outside my door in the flowerbed.

I've lost others since but he was the best.

I´m fortunate because i never experienced the loss of a loved one, i have a great relationship with my family and of course i don´t know who´s gonna go first. But always that somebody like you talk about how they felt when their pets die (in my case i have two cats and as i said before they´re like my children) my stomach hurts, i don´t know what am i going to do if they go first, i can even take the thought that they have to go....

[redrum]

I´m fortunate because i never experienced the loss of a loved one, i have a great relationship with my family and of course i don´t know who´s gonna go first. But always that somebody like you talk about how they felt when their pets die (in my case i have two cats and as i said before they´re like my children) my stomach hurts, i don´t know what am i going to do if they go first, i can even take the thought that they have to go....

A pet is part of the family and it doesn't hurt any less.

My niece died today from cancer. She was only 45.

[Anjin-san]

Hi Red,all,

A pet is part of the family and it doesn't hurt any less.

My niece died today from cancer. She was only 45.

Sorry,....

Anything I can do? I did find the book you want,.....$#!!

KB

[Laura_Page]

I'm sorry for all your looses.

What can I say about death? When I was 16, my grandmother. 2009 new year's eve, my mum (cancer), and two months later my other grandmother, in my birthday. This time, it was extremely shocking for me. Fortunatelly I think I've been able to got over it (more or less, I guess if you ever really get over a death of your 48-year aged mother), despite not having any religious belief and taking into account that I had a serious emotional dependance with her. How can I did it? I don't know. Well, I'm not recovered at all, I have some bad times. I suposse you try to continue your life and you try to make it enjoyable despite all things that go against you. One day, you realize that's a bit less painful. Little by little. Music has helped and continues helping me everyday. Because of that I'm here.

I wish I had a positive way to see death. Sometimes I'm contradictory. I hate when people doesn't like to talk about death, it seems they are very far from real life. But, a lot of times I'm in that situation, I'm depressed and I need everything but thinking about the end of life, 'cause I wanna LIVE.

That's a fact I've learnt, not to be fanciful but, if something makes me happy, why don't do it? In the end, I won't take to my coffin my clothes, my objects, I won't see people anywhere. I'll only take what I lived, what I have contributed to the rest of people, my legacy as a person. Anything more.

Edited March 13, 2011 by Laura_Page

[Walesdad]

Speaking personally,I'm not afraid of dying.However,like Woody Allen,I just don't want to be there when it happens.

[ally]

My niece died today from cancer. She was only 45.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Janet]

I'm sorry for all your looses.

What can I say about death? When I was 16, my grandmother. 2009 new year's eve, my mum (cancer), and two months later my other grandmother, in my birthday. This time, it was extremely shocking for me. Fortunatelly I think I've been able to got over it (more or less, I guess if you ever really get over a death of your 48-year aged mother), despite not having any religious belief and taking into account that I had a serious emotional dependance with her. How can I did it? I don't know. Well, I'm not recovered at all, I have some bad times. I suposse you try to continue your life and you try to make it enjoyable despite all things that go against you. One day, you realize that's a bit less painful. Little by little. Music has helped and continues helping me everyday. Because of that I'm here.

I wish I had a positive way to see death. Sometimes I'm contradictory. I hate when people doesn't like to talk about death, it seems they are very far from real life. But, a lot of times I'm in that situation, I'm depressed and I need everything but thinking about the end of life, 'cause I wanna LIVE.

That's a fact I've learnt, not to be fanciful but, if something makes me happy, why don't do it? In the end, I won't take to my coffin my clothes, my objects, I won't see people anywhere. I'll only take what I lived, what I have contributed to the rest of people, my legacy as a person. Anything more.

You have a good attitude and I'm sure your grandmothers and mother would be proud of you.

Be strong and rock on!

[Laura_Page]

You have a good attitude and I'm sure your grandmothers and mother would be proud of you.

Be strong and rock on!

Thank you Janet

[spidersandsnakes]

The Japanese are looking at it straight in the eyes these days :(

[Silver Rider]

The Japanese are looking at it straight in the eyes these days :(

They must provide a decent burial or cremation, or the bodies will generate disease, threatening survivors.

mysanantonio.com

A tide of bodies washed up along Japan's coastline Monday, overwhelming crematoriums, exhausting supplies of body bags

Edited March 14, 2011 by Silver Rider

[silvermedalist]

A pet is part of the family and it doesn't hurt any less.

My niece died today from cancer. She was only 45.

Just saw this post. Very sorry Redrum.

[Patrycja]

A pet is part of the family and it doesn't hurt any less.

My niece died today from cancer. She was only 45.

Cancer is so pernicious. Very sorry for your loss, redrum

[spidersandsnakes]

My sincere condolences to all the people here who have relatives and parents pass away recently:(

[redrum]

Cancer is so pernicious. Very sorry for your loss, redrum

I know this is a late reply, but thank you.

Sadly, my other niece passed away last Friday at age 58. She had emphysema and looked like a skeleton.

At least she isn't suffering anymore.

Rest In Peace, Marsha.