JethroTull Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 The girl i met on New Years was interested in me even though she had no clue how to show it. So much for her picking up on my "negative karma". you give off negative energy. definatley on this chat board and more than likely in person. How do you even ask a woman out? Hi Yoko, how are ya? i'd like to ask you out for a bento box on tuesday, but first I need to know if you can pay your way. No!! Okay thanks, guess I'll just go to a gay bar. seriously, how do you bring up all these uncomfortable subjects that you are obsessed about, with these woman you are meeting? When you go on a job interview, is the first question "How much money does this job pay?". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JethroTull Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 It just sounds like you are incredibly needy and in need of coddling. Who wants to be around that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 you give off negative energy. definatley on this chat board and more than likely in person. How do you even ask a woman out? Hi Yoko, how are ya? i'd like to ask you out for a bento box on tuesday, but first I need to know if you can pay your way. No!! Okay thanks, guess I'll just go to a gay bar. seriously, how do you bring up all these uncomfortable subjects that you are obsessed about, with these woman you are meeting? When you go on a job interview, is the first question "How much money does this job pay?". I don't really ask women out. Lately i have given out my number and said if you want to go out sometime give me a call. I just did that with the girl i met on New Years, i did it at harbourfront and at the clubs a couple times last year. Of course i got no response from all of them. Zero interest. But there has never really been any uncomfortable experiences when it has come to the paying. I never let them pay for me. I always pay for my meal. Even if they suggested the dinner or whatever. Not because they are women but because i am not going to let someone i don't really know pay for me. I don't feel right about that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 It just sounds like you are incredibly needy and in need of coddling. Who wants to be around that? I don't think i am needy. I am a very independant person. I don't know what you mean by i seem to be in need of coddlling. You mean i need to be taken care of? If anything i don't want a woman who needs coddling. And that's what those dating rules are promoting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JethroTull Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I don't think i am needy. I am a very independant person. I don't know what you mean by i seem to be in need of coddlling. You mean i need to be taken care of? If anything i don't want a woman who needs coddling. And that's what those dating rules are promoting. That's the thing....you have all these things/needs/peccadillos that need attention. It so fucking irritating. And you expect attractive women to want to date THAT. I just wanna punch you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~tangerine~ Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 This stuff is horrible. Here are a few bits of advice on the list... - Let the man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely. - Ensure you receive flowers. If he does not know what a florist is, dump him. - Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It's a lady's perogative. - Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two before replying. - Always let the man do the chasing and always let yourself be the chooser. I am the only one that thinks this advice is horrible? I thought it was pretty funny myself and wonder what percentage of women think like that. Still there are some good pointers that would impress a girl you are interested in, if you are the "persuer"... i know that doesn't pertain to you Spats So did you ever call her back? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Bonnie~ Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I am not responsible for her getting home safely. Is she responsbible for me getting home safely??? After some of my early dates with women after the date we say our goodbyes and go our seperate ways. I don't make sure my buddies get home safely either. Do you make sure the guys you go out with get home safely? If i was driving her on the date that would be a different story. But i usually meet them wherever we are going on the date. I don't take them out on the date. We meet up. I agree that one gender does not deserve more respect than the other. But the "dating rules" appear to say that women deserve more than the guy does. Yeah, actually I do tell them to call when they get home. But then again, I'm not like you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanna be drummer Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I am not responsible for her getting home safely. Is she responsbible for me getting home safely??? After some of my early dates with women after the date we say our goodbyes and go our seperate ways. I don't make sure my buddies get home safely either. Do you make sure the guys you go out with get home safely? I make damn sure every single person I'm with has somewhere to go after a party and that they'll be fine getting there. What the hell is wrong with you? No, it's not your responsibility, but do you just not care? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I thought it was pretty funny myself and wonder what percentage of women think like that. Still there are some good pointers that would impress a girl you are interested in, if you are the "persuer"... i know that doesn't pertain to you Spats So did you ever call her back? I am sure there are tons of women who think like that unfortunately. But hopefully there are some that don't. Which pointers do you think are good ones? And what do you think are good pointers for women? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Yeah, actually I do tell them to call when they get home. But then again, I'm not like you. That's not what i mean. I mean do you make sure they get home safely. Like they advise men to do with women. I don't mean "call me when you get home". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~tangerine~ Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Yeah, actually I do tell them to call when they get home. But then again, I'm not like you. Maybe Spats wasn't raised to be concerned about others? I know whenever i'm out with a friend or family member, we always call each other to make sure we got home safely. It's natural to want to make sure your people are safe. However, if i went on a date with someone i didn't enjoy, i wouldn't call them to see if they got home safely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I make damn sure every single person I'm with has somewhere to go after a party and that they'll be fine getting there. What the hell is wrong with you? No, it's not your responsibility, but do you just not care? I am not talking about people who have had too much to drink. That's a no brainer. I just mean in general. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Maybe Spats wasn't raised to be concerned about others? I know whenever i'm out with a friend or family member, we always call each other to make sure we got home safely. It's natural to want to make sure your people are safe. However, if i went on a date with someone i didn't enjoy, i wouldn't call them to see if they got home safely If i told a buddy to make sure he called me when he got home so i knew he was okay. He would laugh in my face. I don't think it's something guys usually do. And i have never done it with dates either. And i have never had a date say to call her when i got home. But i was not talking about that. I think that list was saying the dude should physically make sure the woman is safe getting home. Meaning hailing her a cab or taking her home. Not telling her to call him when she got home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Wanna Be Drummer said to me in another thread....(i am moving it so it does not ruin that thread) "When I go to frat houses, all I do is "put myself out there" and I'll get asked to dance by five or six women in a few minutes. What are you doing wrong?" That's because you are good looking. I have seen pics of you. You are better looking than i am. That does not happen to me when i put myself out there. Do you hook up with any of them or just dance with them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 If i told a buddy to make sure he called me when he got home so i knew he was okay. He would laugh in my face. I don't think it's something guys usually do. And i have never done it with dates either. And i have never had a date say to call her when i got home. But i was not talking about that. I think that list was saying the dude should physically make sure the woman is safe getting home. Meaning hailing her a cab or taking her home. Not telling her to call him when she got home. If I care about someone guy or gal I would want to know they made it home alright, especially if they had been drinking. And as for women, come on you heartless bastard! It's a dangerous world out there for women! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxie Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 If I care about someone guy or gal I would want to know they made it home alright, especially if they had been drinking. And as for women, come on you heartless bastard! It's a dangerous world out there for women! I agree. I completely appreciate when anybody (guy or girl) wants me to call them after a wild night just to make sure I got home safely. It's a nice gesture. You don't actually have to talk to them. My friends and I used to do a thing where we would just let the phone ring once. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronniedawg Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Roxie, is that you that calls me, lets the phone ring once and hangs up? I really have to put you on MY5 if it is....costing me a fortune ya big drunk ya! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxie Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 You found me out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronniedawg Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I knew it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 If I care about someone guy or gal I would want to know they made it home alright, especially if they had been drinking. And as for women, come on you heartless bastard! It's a dangerous world out there for women! I already said the drinking issue was a no brainer. Of course if they have been drinking you make sure the don't drive. I am not talking about that. It's a dangerous world out there for everybody. Not just women. And women can take care of themselves these days. Women take self defence classes, they carry mace, etc. They don't need guys protecting them all the time. They don't need to be babysat and escorted home with their hand being held. I have never dated a girl that i had to care care of. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ronniedawg Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Always escort a woman home (if she wants), Spats. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 I already said the drinking issue was a no brainer. Of course if they have been drinking you make sure the don't drive. I am not talking about that. It's a dangerous world out there for everybody. Not just women. And women can take care of themselves these days. Women take self defence classes, they carry mace, etc. They don't need guys protecting them all the time. They don't need to be babysat and escorted home with their hand being held. I have never dated a girl that i had to care care of. Yeah! that'll do the trick! http://www.nola.com/news/t-p/metro/index.s....xml&coll=1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 Always escort a woman home (if she wants), Spats. Why? what if her place is out of your way? I only do it if she invites me back to her place. Otherwise we go our own way. I am not a pushy person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lzfan715 Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 If the place is out of your way, so be it. It's a very sweet thing to do. If she doesn't offer, just say would you like me to see you off at home just to be safe? You don't have to go in. It's a gentlemenly thing to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxie Posted January 29, 2009 Share Posted January 29, 2009 If the place is out of your way, so be it. It's a very sweet thing to do. If she doesn't offer, just say would you like me to see you off at home just to be safe? You don't have to go in. It's a gentlemenly thing to do. Exactly - the offer is the main thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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