Babs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 If you only get what you need as opposed to what you want then you could have a very boring life. You NEED to get laid but you don't WANT to do anything about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
longdistancewinner Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 You would be surprised. Some relationships are off and on over a much longer period. But people need room to grow sometimes. You can never really tell what the future will bring. Much of it is a discovery process. But regardless of that he should be seeing other girls as well at this time, even if only on a casual basis. I personally wouldn't ever suggest to someone to see other girls/guys, until he/she knows the relationship is dead and buried. There is always a chance a couple could get back together after their break, and it could affect their relationship if one of them had been with other people in the interim - even if only 'casually'. If she decides to return to the relationship - granted, she was only ever platonic with this other chap - she would feel like shit if she knew he'd been with other women whilst he waited for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ninelives Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 If you only get what you need as opposed to what you want then you could have a very boring life. What you want may only fulfill you temporarily. What you need will last longer. Im sure many here, myself included, have been burned in love before. Its a learning experiece. When I look back I say, "how could I ever have let myself get that down?" But there are no magic words that will cure you instantly. It is good to talk about it like you are here. Just realize some people are going to say things that dont make much sense. Some will give you good advice. You will have to have the knowledge to know the differance. That's true - love and relationships are a learning experience and as much as we do tend to look back and question our reactions or feelings at the time, you feel what you feel given whatever situation you're dealing with and it's part of the healing I think. But as you said, ultimately one has to decide what's best for them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I did. FINALLY. But hey. Honestly, I think it would be wise to step back a while and re-evaluate things. Take a few weeks. I know that's easier said than done, I know firsthand. But it might help to clear your head. Things happen for a reason, even though we may not understand why for a while. I wish you the best of luck, my friend. One last piece of advice: DON'T LISTEN TO SPATS IN ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM!!! on all counts! They say if you love something, set it free! if it returns it's yours forever and if it doesn't it wasn't meant to be! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medhb Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Carry on. I didn't want to be the one to say it, thanks Babs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
longdistancewinner Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Well, it is somewhat ironic that Spats is giving relationship advice when he has nearly 90 pages devoted to his failure to secure one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I have got a horsey Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Well, it is somewhat ironic that Spats is giving relationship advice when he has nearly 90 pages devoted to his failure to secure one. And not only that, but other members are into it for 90 pages... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternal light Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I personally wouldn't ever suggest to someone to see other girls/guys, until he/she knows the relationship is dead and buried. There is always a chance a couple could get back together after their break, and it could affect their relationship if one of them had been with other people in the interim - even if only 'casually'. If she decides to return to the relationship - granted, she was only ever platonic with this other chap - she would feel like shit if she knew he'd been with other women whilst he waited for her. You could be right about that, and you would not want to see someone else on a serious basis so early in the breakup. But it may help to ease the pain to have a casual social life and have someone to talk to just to ease the burden. Besides, other girls might have some good advice for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock Action Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 You NEED to get laid but you don't WANT to do anything about it. In a nutsack. Uhh, I meant NUTSHELL. Sorry... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ninelives Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 And not only that, but other members are into it for 90 pages... Proud to say I have not read one page of it and will continue not reading for the next 90 pages Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock Action Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 If I had a relationship dilemna and was new and started reading here, I wouldnt know whether to laugh or slit my wrists? But for the sake of this guy who is really hurting, and I have been there, lets try and give him some good advice and some strength. After all, you never know if it could be one of us next. Wise advice there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Proud to say I have not read one page of it and will continue not reading for the next 90 pages That reminds me, I need to get some more ALEVE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Babs Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 Proud to say I have not read one page of it and will continue not reading for the next 90 pages When I'm down in the dumps, I go to the spats thread. Funny enough I feel so much better about myself afterward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ninelives Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 That reminds me, I need to get some more ALEVE! When I'm down in the dumps, I go to the spats thread. Funny enough I feel so much better about myself afterward. :hysterical: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Electrophile Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I haven't read that thread in months. And thank God for that too, I was about thisclose to developing technology that would allow me to reach through a computer monitor and strangle people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manderlyh Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I am also proud to say that I haven't read ONE post in Spat's thread. (yes, me...I haven't read ONE POST! NOT ONE!) In fact, I haven't even poked my head in because I don't want to get all irritated by a troll. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dancin'Days Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I think we owe it to guitermy and ourselves to get off the spats, make everything about me shit! If spats wants to give an opinion, let him do it, without others turning it into his thread, he has one of his very own already. Thank you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guitarmy Posted December 31, 2008 Author Share Posted December 31, 2008 ok I said goodbye forever. I guess I'll be getting to that forever part now :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 ok I said goodbye forever. I guess I'll be getting to that forever part now :/ Hang tough brotha! it'll all work out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zepyep Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hi guitarmy,all, ok I said goodbye forever. I guess I'll be getting to that forever part now :/ Happy New Year kid! PM me if you need to to talk.You have alot to look forward too!Chin up! KB Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternal light Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Here Comes The Night - Live - Them It's going to be alright, Guitarmy. Hugs, EL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ninelives Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 ok I said goodbye forever. I guess I'll be getting to that forever part now :/ I know it's tough. Take it one day at a time and we're here if you need us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~tangerine~ Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 ok I said goodbye forever. I guess I'll be getting to that forever part now :/ I hope you feel better soon. I know how painful it can be... let's hope for a better year in 09' with lots of true love coming our way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock Action Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 ok I said goodbye forever. I guess I'll be getting to that forever part now :/ Hang in there, man. I know it's hard, but in the long run things will be better. Just give it time, and concentrate on the good things in life. Again, things do happen for a reason. There's someone out there better for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guitarmy Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm doing really bad with staying away. I'm not sure how much longer I can handle this, and I don't know what it means to not be handling it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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