Relationship Status Update

[~Bonnie~]

What is so frustrating about what i am saying?

Lots of things.

You say you want a hot chick, but then you say that you yourself are merely ok looking, and hot chicks don't go for you.

You are completely unwilling to make any sort of compromise with a woman.

You won't call a girl when you get her number, but then you are discouraged when a hot chick you gave your number to doesn't call.

You say that you don't like easy women, yet you LOVE Britney and Paris.

You admit you are afraid of being rejected, but you don't understand how a woman could fear being rejected.

Do you want me to go on?? What really bothers me, is that you don't seem like a total jerk, aside from your major women issues, so I really don't see why you don't get it....

[Mattmc1973]

I am doing the best i can with what i have going for me. I am limited.

Is "limited" a nice way of saying "mentally challenged"?

[Mattmc1973]

Do you want me to go on??

Yes he does. And on, and on, and on...and he still won't get it.

[~Bonnie~]

Just for fun, let's some up what Spats is looking for in a woman....

She has to be incredibly good looking, so that he is not embarrassed to be seen in public with her. And while they are out in public, god forbid anything happens, like a passing car splashes her, or else she would be an embarrassment to him.(As though she planned it)

She has to be willing to make the first move, but yet she can't be so into him that she'd want to have sex with him right away.

She has to call him first, but not too soon or he'll think she's clingy and he won't date her.

She can't want to go to any social functions with him.

She can't like anything in bed that he thinks is "dirty".

[spats]

Lots of things.

You say you want a hot chick, but then you say that you yourself are merely ok looking, and hot chicks don't go for you.

You are completely unwilling to make any sort of compromise with a woman.

You won't call a girl when you get her number, but then you are discouraged when a hot chick you gave your number to doesn't call.

You say that you don't like easy women, yet you LOVE Britney and Paris.

You admit you are afraid of being rejected, but you don't understand how a woman could fear being rejected.

Do you want me to go on?? What really bothers me, is that you don't seem like a total jerk, aside from your major women issues, so I really don't see why you don't get it....

- Yes i want a hottie. If i am only ok looking should i quit hoping to get another one? I have been able to attract them before. I am just in a horrible slump when it comes to hotties. I am not good enough looking to have a lot of them coming my way.

- I will make compromises depending on what they are. But not just anything.

- I am discouraged that she didn't call because it is reminds of the teen years and i can see the pattern developing again. I will call a girl if they give me their number but not right away.

- I like them as personalities and their looks but i doubt i would hook up with them even if i had the chance.

-I don't understand how a woman could fear rejection because they rarely put themselves on the line. Most don't know what it feels like when it comes to approaching or asking out. Because they usually wait for the man to do it. They don't know what that type of rejection is like men do and most men will not reject a pretty woman who approaches them. There is no real risk for women when it comes to this.

I like to think i a good guy and i don't think i have "women issues'. I wouldn't call it that.

[spats]

Just for fun, let's some up what Spats is looking for in a woman....

She has to be incredibly good looking, so that he is not embarrassed to be seen in public with her. And while they are out in public, god forbid anything happens, like a passing car splashes her, or else she would be an embarrassment to him.(As though she planned it)

She has to be willing to make the first move, but yet she can't be so into him that she'd want to have sex with him right away.

She has to call him first, but not too soon or he'll think she's clingy and he won't date her.

She can't want to go to any social functions with him.

She can't like anything in bed that he thinks is "dirty".

Wow. When it's all written out like that it makes me look bad. I guess i better ease up on some of that.

But in my head if a woman really wanted to and has wanted to have sex really soon it enters my head "why? i am only average looking?? I not that special" I can't help it and i don't know why but that has entered my head before.

[Dzldoc]

[spats]

Is "limited" a nice way of saying "mentally challenged"?

No, i mean i am not good at some things and not drop dead beautiful so i am limited in what i can do.

[spats]

And i was hoping no one remembered the car splashing thing. I am not exactly proud of my attitude that day. But that's how i felt at the time.

You have a good memory Bonnie.

[Mattmc1973]

Wow. When it's all written out like that it makes me look bad. I guess i better ease up on some of that.

Holy shit, we have a breakthrough!!!! And it only took reviewing this stuff 87 times to get the breakthrough. You're a quick study, Spats.

But in my head if a woman really wanted to and has wanted to have sex really soon it enters my head "why? i am only average looking?? I not that special" I can't help it and i don't know why but that has entered my head before.

But you don't have self-esteem or confidence issues. Yeah.

[spats]

Holy shit, we have a breakthrough!!!! And it only took reviewing this stuff 87 times to get the breakthrough. You're a quick study, Spats.

But you don't have self-esteem or confidence issues. Yeah.

I have self esteem issues because i don't think i am that good looking or that special? That's just how i feel and have not understood why past girlfriends found my looks attractive, etc.

You wouldn't be suspicous if a woman wanted you in bed that quick or badly? I remember back in high school for the most part the only time a pretty girl was extra nice to me it was because she had an ulterior motive or something was up.

[spats]

Just for fun, let's some up what Spats is looking for in a woman....

She has to be incredibly good looking, so that he is not embarrassed to be seen in public with her. And while they are out in public, god forbid anything happens, like a passing car splashes her, or else she would be an embarrassment to him.(As though she planned it)

She has to be willing to make the first move, but yet she can't be so into him that she'd want to have sex with him right away.

She has to call him first, but not too soon or he'll think she's clingy and he won't date her.

She can't want to go to any social functions with him.

She can't like anything in bed that he thinks is "dirty".

- She doesn't have to be "incredibly good looking". I will settle for Pretty. The News Years girl was somewhere in between "plain/cute/pretty" and i would have gone out with her. I have been out witha group and there have been comments made on what someone's girlfriend looks like hwther she is good looking or not and i don't want to be the subject of this talk. Because it can be brutal. I hear this type of talk from people in general when i am out. People rating people's girlfriends/boyfriends. Especially if they are bad looking. I don't want to be the victim of that. And if your friends think your girlfriend/boyfriend is bad looking it's just not a good atmosphere.

- Yes i prefer her to make the move. It shows she is a openminded, modern women. And it's a turn on and i don't have to worry about being rejected which have have had my share of. But i should try and accept it if she wants to hook up for sex soon. Even though i don't understand why they would want me that fast. But a one night stand is definatley out. Being easy is not sexy.

- I prefer them to call but i will loosen up on when they should call. I have to admit i would have liked that girl from the weekend to call soon.

- it depends on what type of social function. I will go to chick flicks, sports events, concerts. But No weddings. Weddings are silly. And i am not gonna support something i don't believe in. it would make me a hypocrite.

- We have to be sexually compatible. It goes both ways. I wouldn't ask her to do anything in bed she wasn't comfortable with. If i think the act is gross or looks bad i am not doing it.

[peppermint]

free as in freedom.............

[Chien Noir]

Took like...53 pages plus one whole another multipaged thread to do this one small step?

YAY! CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ha ha ha

[spats]

Took like...53 pages plus one whole another multipaged thread to do this one small step?

YAY! CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ha ha ha

It's a big step for me. I don't like to settle.

[Electrophile]

The more he talks about sex being "dirty" and "gross"......the more I'm led to believe he was abused as a child. Normal, healthy, well-adjusted adults don't have those kinds of opinions and ideas about sex.

Sex is a beautiful, wonderful, really fucking awesome thing. You need to see a doctor to correct your views, because they are not normal, I don't care what you say.

[Rock Action]

The more he talks about sex being "dirty" and "gross"......the more I'm led to believe he was abused as a child. Normal, healthy, well-adjusted adults don't have those kinds of opinions and ideas about sex.

Sex is a beautiful, wonderful, really fucking awesome thing. You need to see a doctor to correct your views, because they are not normal, I don't care what you say.

I can't argue any of that.

There is nothing about sex that should be construed as "dirty", provided that both partners practice simple, day to day hygiene. Good clean dirty fun is as good as it gets!

[Dzldoc]

Sex is a beautiful, wonderful, really fucking awesome thing. You need to see a doctor to correct your views, because they are not normal, I don't care what you say.

Damn Straight!

[JethroTull]

- She doesn't have to be "incredibly good looking". I will settle for Pretty. The News Years girl was somewhere in between "plain/cute/pretty" and i would have gone out with her. I have been out witha group and there have been comments made on what someone's girlfriend looks like hwther she is good looking or not and i don't want to be the subject of this talk. Because it can be brutal. I hear this type of talk from people in general when i am out. People rating people's girlfriends/boyfriends. Especially if they are bad looking. I don't want to be the victim of that. And if your friends think your girlfriend/boyfriend is bad looking it's just not a good atmosphere.

- Yes i prefer her to make the move. It shows she is a openminded, modern women. And it's a turn on and i don't have to worry about being rejected which have have had my share of. But i should try and accept it if she wants to hook up for sex soon. Even though i don't understand why they would want me that fast. But a one night stand is definatley out. Being easy is not sexy.

- I prefer them to call but i will loosen up on when they should call. I have to admit i would have liked that girl from the weekend to call soon.

- it depends on what type of social function. I will go to chick flicks, sports events, concerts. But No weddings. Weddings are silly. And i am not gonna support something i don't believe in. it would make me a hypocrite.

- We have to be sexually compatible. It goes both ways. I wouldn't ask her to do anything in bed she wasn't comfortable with. If i think the act is gross or looks bad i am not doing it.

coughfaggotcough.

[The Bomber]

Maybe that's what i should have done when i was younger. Become a musician. Even the ugliest dudes get action with pretty girls in that profession.

...Because we're not petrified of sex!!!!Musicians do it ALL the time because they're willing to spill their seed a whole lot more than you ever will.

I picked up a guitar not for girls,in Ireland [i can't stress this enough] all the girls are into chavs who play techno,i play for love of music,i love it so much that i've killed whatever chances i had of having as much sex as you've been offered but refuse to take.In fact,i subjected myself to a life of being attacked,beaten,and almost stabbed because of my hair length,has anyone ever threated you at knifepoint for looking at them?My relationship status is lonely,for a very,very long time,noone in Ireland wants you to play,they hate you for it,you risk death for it in Cork,i risk death because of my politics (i.e. Democratic Socialist,everyone must be equal,the idiots only know about Fianna Fail,they hate politics) My hair,My music,my attitude towards Polish people (I've defended Poles from racist chavs,they try stab me) my attitude toward racism (They ask,"Should we call them niggers,or black people?"I say,""THEY'RE JUST PEOPLE!!!" and am attacked) so what has music done to me?It has left me on a 2 year dry spell.

- Yes i want a hottie. If i am only ok looking should i quit hoping to get another one? I have been able to attract them before. I am just in a horrible slump when it comes to hotties. I am not good enough looking to have a lot of them coming my way.

-I don't understand how a woman could fear rejection because they rarely put themselves on the line. Most don't know what it feels like when it comes to approaching or asking out. Because they usually wait for the man to do it. They don't know what that type of rejection is like men do and most men will not reject a pretty woman who approaches them. There is no real risk for women when it comes to this.

Women have NO IDEA (Sorry) what rejection is like,we ask out,we have to be the first to say we love yo (Most of the time) Once every four years they may propose,but the closest they get is us dumping them (No,we don't want to,and admittedly both sides have to do it) While i've never had to do it,i can't imagine anything more crushing than being shot down after i propose.

I NEVER look for hotties because i can't afford to and am not as shallow as you,i like fellow artists,i go nuts for a girl that plays guitar,my secondary instrument (Piano) is also a massive turn on for me,girls that are artistic,not sluts (As you so fear) I don't care what they look like,the kind that are nice,actually CARE about politics,and are fun,funny,what you might generally look for.

My tastes are more selective than yours,two of my best friends are like that,but they are the only two in the country,which makes things quite complicated,and despite their constant support,i have accepted mediocre,i will almost definately remain as i am if i stay in Ireland.My ex-guitar teacher's wife was Canadian,he moved over to Canada with her and their child,he was in much the same situation as i am now.

I've accepted that i will NEVER have a choice as far as relationships go,you wouldn't go out with the coolest people in the world [My friends] because they aren't big boobed blondes with chastity belts [And believe me,they are NOT sluts]

But in my head if a woman really wanted to and has wanted to have sex really soon it enters my head "why? i am only average looking?? I not that special" I can't help it and i don't know why but that has entered my head before.

You don't know how good you look unless your gay or bi.

- She doesn't have to be "incredibly good looking". I will settle for Pretty. The News Years girl was somewhere in between "plain/cute/pretty" and i would have gone out with her. I have been out witha group and there have been comments made on what someone's girlfriend looks like hwther she is good looking or not and i don't want to be the subject of this talk. Because it can be brutal. I hear this type of talk from people in general when i am out. People rating people's girlfriends/boyfriends. Especially if they are bad looking. I don't want to be the victim of that. And if your friends think your girlfriend/boyfriend is bad looking it's just not a good atmosphere.

- Yes i prefer her to make the move. It shows she is a openminded, modern women. And it's a turn on and i don't have to worry about being rejected which have have had my share of. But i should try and accept it if she wants to hook up for sex soon. Even though i don't understand why they would want me that fast. But a one night stand is definatley out. Being easy is not sexy.

- I prefer them to call but i will loosen up on when they should call. I have to admit i would have liked that girl from the weekend to call soon.

- it depends on what type of social function. I will go to chick flicks, sports events, concerts. But No weddings. Weddings are silly. And i am not gonna support something i don't believe in. it would make me a hypocrite.

- We have to be sexually compatible. It goes both ways. I wouldn't ask her to do anything in bed she wasn't comfortable with. If i think the act is gross or looks bad i am not doing it.

You will never find true love unless you loosen the fuck up,not many people as seemingly cool as you can be such an ass when you want to.Your musician theory pains me,i would be in heaven in Canada,meet up with my old guitar teacher,form a band (You try finding a rock drummer,bassist and vocalist in Cork,you'll be stabbed by the local Pimp for being anti-techno) If i wanted a girl i'd have to shave my head and play techno,abandon my glasses,kill someone,kick a puppy and of course,commit a vicious,senseless hate-crime against a polish man.Ireland hates me,i miss old Ireland,the beautiful mountains,the hills,it's the most romantic place on earth,polluted by racists who'll hold you up with a knife for looking at them funny (This,along with all events i've listed,is true,none of my fellow rocker friends have girlfriends,the people who try to stab us have four each) Ok,this REALLY did happen,one of the most twisted,sickening crimes i can think of,in Limerick Ireland last year,two chavs asked a single mother for a lift to town,she said no,her children were in the back,clearly visible.What do you do when someone won't let you hitchhike?These sicko's (Only 15 each) Petrol bombed her car,THEY TRIED TO FUCKING KILL HER!!!She survived,her two children now live in hell,they can barely walk,they live in special suits,a 5 year old child and an 8 year old child that will be scarred forever,they will never have a relationship,children,or even fresh air again.Now the scum that did this were set to jail,i think it was two years for ETERNALLY CRIPPLING TWO CHILDREN!!!!These assholes have multiple girlfriends,i have none,when they get out they'll have their multiple girlfriends waiting for them.I don't,only scumbags have girlfriends in this country.

Next time you're held up to a knife point because someone you were looking at the traffic lights,come back to me (I believe his words were,What the fuck are you lookin' at boy?(Pronounced,Byeeee) before he took a swing i punched him)

[The Bomber]

You got it. It's one of those.

C'mon Suz!!!Which one?Ok,Xylophone,i know i'm getting closer.

[~Bonnie~]

...Because we're not petrified of sex!!!!Musicians do it ALL the time because they're willing to spill their seed a whole lot more than you ever will.

I picked up a guitar not for girls,in Ireland [i can't stress this enough] all the girls are into chavs who play techno,i play for love of music,i love it so much that i've killed whatever chances i had of having as much sex as you've been offered but refuse to take.In fact,i subjected myself to a life of being attacked,beaten,and almost stabbed because of my hair length,has anyone ever threated you at knifepoint for looking at them?My relationship status is lonely,for a very,very long time,noone in Ireland wants you to play,they hate you for it,you risk death for it in Cork,i risk death because of my politics (i.e. Democratic Socialist,everyone must be equal,the idiots only know about Fianna Fail,they hate politics) My hair,My music,my attitude towards Polish people (I've defended Poles from racist chavs,they try stab me) my attitude toward racism (They ask,"Should we call them niggers,or black people?"I say,""THEY'RE JUST PEOPLE!!!" and am attacked) so what has music done to me?It has left me on a 2 year dry spell.

Women have NO IDEA (Sorry) what rejection is like,we ask out,we have to be the first to say we love yo (Most of the time) Once every four years they may propose,but the closest they get is us dumping them (No,we don't want to,and admittedly both sides have to do it) While i've never had to do it,i can't imagine anything more crushing than being shot down after i propose.

I NEVER look for hotties because i can't afford to and am not as shallow as you,i like fellow artists,i go nuts for a girl that plays guitar,my secondary instrument (Piano) is also a massive turn on for me,girls that are artistic,not sluts (As you so fear) I don't care what they look like,the kind that are nice,actually CARE about politics,and are fun,funny,what you might generally look for.

My tastes are more selective than yours,two of my best friends are like that,but they are the only two in the country,which makes things quite complicated,and despite their constant support,i have accepted mediocre,i will almost definately remain as i am if i stay in Ireland.My ex-guitar teacher's wife was Canadian,he moved over to Canada with her and their child,he was in much the same situation as i am now.

I've accepted that i will NEVER have a choice as far as relationships go,you wouldn't go out with the coolest people in the world [My friends] because they aren't big boobed blondes with chastity belts [And believe me,they are NOT sluts]

You don't know how good you look unless your gay or bi.

You will never find true love unless you loosen the fuck up,not many people as seemingly cool as you can be such an ass when you want to.Your musician theory pains me,i would be in heaven in Canada,meet up with my old guitar teacher,form a band (You try finding a rock drummer,bassist and vocalist in Cork,you'll be stabbed by the local Pimp for being anti-techno) If i wanted a girl i'd have to shave my head and play techno,abandon my glasses,kill someone,kick a puppy and of course,commit a vicious,senseless hate-crime against a polish man.Ireland hates me,i miss old Ireland,the beautiful mountains,the hills,it's the most romantic place on earth,polluted by racists who'll hold you up with a knife for looking at them funny (This,along with all events i've listed,is true,none of my fellow rocker friends have girlfriends,the people who try to stab us have four each) Ok,this REALLY did happen,one of the most twisted,sickening crimes i can think of,in Limerick Ireland last year,two chavs asked a single mother for a lift to town,she said no,her children were in the back,clearly visible.What do you do when someone won't let you hitchhike?These sicko's (Only 15 each) Petrol bombed her car,THEY TRIED TO FUCKING KILL HER!!!She survived,her two children now live in hell,they can barely walk,they live in special suits,a 5 year old child and an 8 year old child that will be scarred forever,they will never have a relationship,children,or even fresh air again.Now the scum that did this were set to jail,i think it was two years for ETERNALLY CRIPPLING TWO CHILDREN!!!!These assholes have multiple girlfriends,i have none,when they get out they'll have their multiple girlfriends waiting for them.I don't,only scumbags have girlfriends in this country.

Next time you're held up to a knife point because someone you were looking at the traffic lights,come back to me (I believe his words were,What the fuck are you lookin' at boy?(Pronounced,Byeeee) before he took a swing i punched him)

Oh My God, That is Horrible! I'm sorry you have to put up with all that....But I totally admire you for not giving up on your dream just because of some jackwads! People are dumb sometimes....

[The Bomber]

Oh My God, That is Horrible! I'm sorry you have to put up with all that....But I totally admire you for not giving up on your dream just because of some jackwads! People are dumb sometimes....

You're right,i don't give up on music because i don 't want the petrol bombing chavs to win!Most the girls are sluts (i.e. The pregnant 15 year olds who still believe their petrol bombing boyfriend loves them) So i wouldn't really touch those,i know some really cool people though,musicians,politically active (Not on many people's wish list i see but equal rights matters very much to me) and hate chavs as much as me!I got good friends,the best,i'm lucky.

Otherwise going through this shit would be unbearable!Spats doesn't know what a lucky bastard he is,he just won't settle for anyone less than pretty,prettiness always comes last with me (Makes a nice extra though) For all we know Spats could be in a brothel right now,whining that everyone's got the clap.

You have NO IDEA how much harder it is to get lucky here,one night stands are very rare at best,unless you've got petrol bombs.

So People,playing music has left me with nothing for a few years,i mean everywhere else on earth a talentless,greasy man is a sex god with a guitar and i'm a petrol bomb target,do i give a fuck?No way!!!Not playing or doing what i wanted and getting girlfriends by scores would suck and i'd be unhappy because i only get sex by killing my emotions,i let it all out on my guitar,get attacked,depending on numbers (And knives) i win (I can take on two people on my own cause i'm strong,but not three cause i'm kinda slow) Then jam a little bit with the best friends you could ask for to get it out of the system.

We all are basically in each others head,y'know the way,though they have boyfriends (girls can come by them easy enough,select boys may get chosen by the cool girls but they'll still have to start it up) They're supportive,funny,CARE what happens outside the country (Unlike everyone else) and always cheer me up,it's a pretty good consolation prize.

[~Bonnie~]

- She doesn't have to be "incredibly good looking". I will settle for Pretty. The News Years girl was somewhere in between "plain/cute/pretty" and i would have gone out with her. I have been out witha group and there have been comments made on what someone's girlfriend looks like hwther she is good looking or not and i don't want to be the subject of this talk. Because it can be brutal. I hear this type of talk from people in general when i am out. People rating people's girlfriends/boyfriends. Especially if they are bad looking. I don't want to be the victim of that. And if your friends think your girlfriend/boyfriend is bad looking it's just not a good atmosphere.

- Yes i prefer her to make the move. It shows she is a openminded, modern women. And it's a turn on and i don't have to worry about being rejected which have have had my share of. But i should try and accept it if she wants to hook up for sex soon. Even though i don't understand why they would want me that fast. But a one night stand is definatley out. Being easy is not sexy.

- I prefer them to call but i will loosen up on when they should call. I have to admit i would have liked that girl from the weekend to call soon.

- it depends on what type of social function. I will go to chick flicks, sports events, concerts. But No weddings. Weddings are silly. And i am not gonna support something i don't believe in. it would make me a hypocrite.

- We have to be sexually compatible. It goes both ways. I wouldn't ask her to do anything in bed she wasn't comfortable with. If i think the act is gross or looks bad i am not doing it.

At least you did read what I wrote, and you did give it consideration. I'll give you credit for that. And I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, but you did ask....

[spats]

The more he talks about sex being "dirty" and "gross"......the more I'm led to believe he was abused as a child. Normal, healthy, well-adjusted adults don't have those kinds of opinions and ideas about sex.

Sex is a beautiful, wonderful, really fucking awesome thing. You need to see a doctor to correct your views, because they are not normal, I don't care what you say.

I told you why i find oral sex gross. I doubt i am the only one you thinks that. Some people do it anyways to keep their boyfriend or girlfriend's toes tapping. I agree sex is great but everyone has their own likes and dislikes involved with it.