Dzldoc Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I've always known that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and the way to a woman's heart is not between her legs but between her ears! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I've always known that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and the way to a woman's heart is not between her legs but between her ears! Jeez, I am not being sarcastic when I say I really should visit the southern states. You guys have a way of just hitting the nail on the head with humor, and not being preachy. Help us get over ourselves, please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 My roommate is pretty well schooled when it comes to dealing with things like this. Basically, it can go two ways. The way of Spats (supposedly) or it can make people do the exact opposite. Take porn stars for example. How many porn stars were sexually abused as children? Many, many including Jenna Jameson for example. Things like that will drive people to look for love, or to act out in a sexual nature, due to repressed feelings of their parents, either suffering from the feeling of not being loved, or whatever. This is just plain uncomfortable to think about, but hell, if he's studying it (and I'm not) I guess he knows what he's talking about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Jeez, I am not being sarcastic when I say I really should visit the southern states. You guys have a way of just hitting the nail on the head with humor, and not being preachy. Help us get over ourselves, please. You must visit the cresent city some day. April 25 would be a good date. Though I wasn't born here, I've pretty much been here most of my life and there is no place like the Big Easy. But I must warn you about the 2 year rule. You can visit as many times as you like but if you stay for 2 or more years you will become part of the organism. New Orleans is more than a city it is a state of mind. "joie de vivre"" Laissez les bons temps rouler!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 You must visit the cresent city some day. April 25 would be a good date. Though I wasn't born here, I've pretty much been here most of my life and there is no place like the Big Easy. But I must warn you about the 2 year rule. You can visit as many times as you like but if you stay for 2 or more years you will become part of the organism. New Orleans is more than a city it is a state of mind. "joie de vivre"" Laissez les bons temps rouler!" When I was watching the coverage of Katrina on TV, I cried because I thought I'd never get to see it. It's definately been on my list of places I'd like to go for some time. I think the music alone would be worth it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evermore Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I've always known that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and the way to a woman's heart is not between her legs but between her ears! ' You may be right that the way to a womans heart is through her mind but jeez Dzldoc, who are you trying to kid. I can always buy a good dinner or cook for myself. The way to my heart IS between my legs. Ive tried to convince myself otherwise, but at 41 I think I know my heart well enough to just accept it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JethroTull Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 She didn't have to wait for me long at all. I got the firend who set it up to call her and tell i couldn't make it. I didn't leave her sitting there for an hour or anything. I am not proud of myself for that or anything. I just went by my gut reaction and it happened. Your friend sounds like a loser too. Stop acting like you are 12. The person you were supposed to meet, KNEW you were her blind date. People aren't as stupid as you think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricmage Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Are you telling me that a porn star who has been molested (not that they all have) is having a healthy, uninhibited sexual encounter? Well, anything's possible. Okay guys, someone's gotta say it: some of you have an idea about what it means to be sexually uninhibited that is just plain dumb, to some of us gals. It's like you're only thinking about the acts themselves...well, those are all good, in my book, but it's a mind/body/soul experience and you can't tell me some 18 year old porn star is having a healthy, mature sexual experience. I'm sorry. It's about knowing yourself, and from what I've learned from friends who have been molested, they are actually ROBBED of themselves. It has taken my one friend many years of intensive therapy to get herself back. Even without being molested, sex is a different experience for women. Having been an 18 year old myself (20 years ago) I can tell you that I had no idea how to orgasm with a man, so I faked it. That got old quick, so I (nicely) trained them. We have to do that, it's only right, because the other person doesn't know how it feels for you. And it's okay for you guys to do the same (nicely)! I was stating the exact opposite. I was using pornstars as an example, as probably well over 50% have been sexually molested as children. It's anything but healthy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattmc1973 Posted March 8, 2008 Author Share Posted March 8, 2008 It's very common for people who've been sexually molested to become hyper-sexual, and to act out sexually in an extreme way. It's their misguided way of gaining control back over their sexuality, and a way of looking for love and affection. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Spats, what about massage? Have you ever had one? Maybe if you go to a female massage therapist, it could help you with your trust issues (I was reading what you just said on the other thread). Never had any interest in going to a massage place. I wouldn't want to strip down and get rubbed down by a complete stranger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Spats, your outlook on the opposite sex, has got to be the most fucked up ever. You sound like an anti-social fool. Or maybe you just have the maturity level of a fucking fifth grader. I don't think there is anything wrong with my outlook on the opposite sex. Because i have to be physically attracted to them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Someone who has issues with sex, stemming from childhood and adolescence. Those kinds of beliefs are drummed into your head when you're young....so someone fucked him up. Either he grew up in a very religious and repressed house, he's full of shit, he was abused as a child (which would seriously explain a lot) or he's full of shit. The worst thing i went through in my teens was quite a bit of rejection from girls. I was never abused or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I was stating the exact opposite. I was using pornstars as an example, as probably well over 50% have been sexually molested as children. It's anything but healthy. Wow, I guess I totally misread that, sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Wow! spats, you stood her up man. That could be very emotionally hurtful to the other person. "No Rules" BS like Rock said it's called common courtesy which there seems to be less and less of these days. You sir? are a coward!. Look rejection is a fact of life there is no one I've ever met that hasn't been rejected for something including me. I've been turned down, turned around, turned over, turned upside down and turned inside out and I'm still around. No gay references about that last line guys The girl had no idea I stood her up. My buddy told her I wasn't able to make it. I agree that a lot of people go through rejection (mostly men) but it just left scars on me. It makes you feel like you aren't that wanted or physically attractive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricmage Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I don't think there is anything wrong with my outlook on the opposite sex. Because i have to be physically attracted to them? I think the fact that you think blow jobs are taboo, or gross, and the fact that you don't enjoy the company of strangers cleary means you have issues with the opposite sex. What do you think a one night stand is? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 It's very common for people who've been sexually molested to become hyper-sexual, and to act out sexually in an extreme way. It's their misguided way of gaining control back over their sexuality, and a way of looking for love and affection. I did not know this. Thank you for the insight. The people I know have had the complete opposite experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 That is so uncool. What do you mean your "gut" told you "it wouldn't work out"? You were just going to see a movie, for crying out loud! Are you telling me your "gut" told you that you wouldn't be able to make it through a movie sitting next to this gal? Puh-lease! Are you really that immature, spats? You agreed to the the date; she showed up; you should have seen it through. You owed her that much. There would have been no harm in seeing the movie with her. None! Even if you (think you) knew there wasn't ever going to be a second date, seeing the movie with her would have been the gentlemanly, decent, courteous and mature thing to do. But you chose instead to be an asshole, and you callously stood up a woman who was willing to take a chance on meeting you. She may have been a real sweetheart for all you know. But now.. because you're so incredibly shallow and immature.. you'll never know. Opportunity knocked, and you were too childish to open the door. Fwiw,.. I think its gonna be your karma to keep getting rejected.. over and over and over again.. until you finally wake up (and grow up) and realize that mature love and mature relationships are about so much more than physical appearance. Get into therapy, son. The sooner the better. Oh, btw,.. If you think that was awkward,.. you aint seen nothin yet. Wait until you cross paths with her again while you're with the guy who set up the date for you and she figures out that you lied to her face when you denied you were you. Now that's gonna be awkward! Again, i never said i was proud of myself for that but at the time it was my first instinct. It's not cheap to go to the movies anymore ya know. It's almost 15 dollars up here and that doesn't even include popcorn and stuff. I just thought it would have been a total waste of money and time. I didn't just think there wouldn't be a second date, i knew there wouldn't be. She may have been a really sweet girl, i don't know, but i need more than sweet. I wouldn't call that experience "opportunity knocking". That's not the type of opportunity i want. Any opportunity that comes my way should be something i am looking for. I agree there is more than physical attraction to a relationship. I 100% agree with you. But the physical attraction has to be there. And i doubt she was hurt by any of it because she didn't even know that was me and my buddy called her pretty quickly to tell her i wasn't coming. No harm done. The worst that would probably have happened is that she paid for parking or subway fare. It could be awkward if i ever meet up with her again but the worst that will happen is that she gets a little ticked off. no big deal. I doubt she has been obsessing about it all this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Your friend sounds like a loser too. Stop acting like you are 12. The person you were supposed to meet, KNEW you were her blind date. People aren't as stupid as you think. I don't think she knew. She waouldn't have still waited if she did. My friend is a good person. They were pissed at what i did but they are my friend so they helped me get out of it and helped her at the same time by teeling not to wait for me. There was no harm done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I think the fact that you think blow jobs are taboo, or gross, and the fact that you don't enjoy the company of strangers cleary means you have issues with the opposite sex. What do you think a one night stand is? I meet new women all the time when we go clubbing. I am not afraid to meet new people. I would never have a one night stand. For the lack of safety involved and because i am not into women who have one night stands. I doubt i would be their first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I've always known that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and the way to a woman's heart is not between her legs but between her ears! I think both of those are a myth. Although women love compliments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilith Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Hi everyone I have just read this thread from beginning to end and have laughed and cried alternately (though it has to be said, there was more laughing than crying!) Reading this thread is a bit like watching a car crash in slow motion - you know you shouldn't, but somehow you can't help yourself. Spats .... words fail me. And that doesn't happen often, I can tell you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I think both of those are a myth. Although women love compliments. I think they're just simple ways of saying it. They can represent something bigger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JethroTull Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I don't think she knew. She waouldn't have still waited if she did. My friend is a good person. They were pissed at what i did but they are my friend so they helped me get out of it and helped her at the same time by teeling not to wait for me. There was no harm done. Of course she waited, she had high hopes. It probably occurred to her once she got home, that YOU were the person she was supposed to meet. Like I said, people ain't stupid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricmage Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I meet new women all the time when we go clubbing. I am not afraid to meet new people. I would never have a one night stand. For the lack of safety involved and because i am not into women who have one night stands. I doubt i would be their first. Lack of safety? Use protection. Second, it's not like everyone is carrying a STD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. Plant Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I meet new women all the time when we go clubbing. I am not afraid to meet new people. Stop talking about clubbing, that is your biggest problem in my eyes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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