Electrophile Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I don't think there any rules to that. If you are not having a good time i think you should be able to bow out early. Male or female. There's a difference in, mid-way through the date, politely excusing yourself for whatever reason and standing up a blind date because you think she's ugly. How fucking rude and infantile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricmage Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Spats, your outlook on the opposite sex, has got to be the most fucked up ever. You sound like an anti-social fool. Or maybe you just have the maturity level of a fucking fifth grader. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Electrophile Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 We think he IS a fifth-grader, so you might be right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricmage Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 We think he IS a fifth-grader, so you might be right. I've seen some pretty astute fifth graders. They put this guy to shame. Who in the hell doesn't like getting a blow job? I'm still dumbfounded by that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Electrophile Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I've seen some pretty astute fifth graders. They put this guy to shame. Who in the hell doesn't like getting a blow job? I'm still dumbfounded by that. Someone who has issues with sex, stemming from childhood and adolescence. Those kinds of beliefs are drummed into your head when you're young....so someone fucked him up. Either he grew up in a very religious and repressed house, he's full of shit, he was abused as a child (which would seriously explain a lot) or he's full of shit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Well, I've had female friends with serious trust issues re: men, so maybe we need to accept that there are men who have those same issues with women. If that's the case, Spats, why the hell are you trying to date? Why not get some counseling, so you can face those issues FIRST. And worry about blow jobs LATER? If you get horny, you can masturbate, and there's not a damn thing wrong with that. At least you trust youself. Right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricmage Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Someone who has issues with sex, stemming from childhood and adolescence. Those kinds of beliefs are drummed into your head when you're young....so someone fucked him up. Either he grew up in a very religious and repressed house, he's full of shit, he was abused as a child (which would seriously explain a lot) or he's full of shit. Religious maybe, but I think that most children who are sexually abused, will often find it easier to interact with less inhibition in sexual situations as adults. My roomate is studying Clinical Psychology, I'll ask him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Religious maybe, but I think that most children who are sexually abused, will often find it easier to interact with less inhibition in sexual situations as adults. My roomate is studying Clinical Psychology, I'll ask him. Okay, I heartily disagree. I consider myself fortunate (which doesn't say much about the world we live in) to have not been abused. But I have girlfriends who have been, and they do NOT find it easier. They have struggled all their lives with this issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icantquityoubabe Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I don't think you owe anything to the person you are on the date with though. A dude can leave when he wants to. And then you look silly. Have you no morality or self dignity or conscience? You cant just hurt people's feelings in this type of "game". Dating is just that at times, but their are peoples' lives at stake. Not everyone can non chalantly walk away uneffected. Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. Ever heard that before? If you are crazy about a woman, do you want her to dump you like that? I think not. So even if you know it is going no place, have the class to see it through. I had to meet a woman that could have played for the Lakers at a restaurant on a blind date. At the next table is the counselor form the divorce meetings I was attending telling us all not to jump into anything. Boy did I pick the wrong restaurant. Not to mention the embarrasment of having to sit through a meal with a woman 5 inches taller than me and that fell from the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down (from Saving private Ryan-remember?). I wound up reluctanly going to her place in this town that looks like Mayberry RFD and when we got inside she just stared at me. Said nothing. Like she was waiting for the magic words (take off your clothes). I felt like I was in the Bates Motel. couldnt escape fast enough and driving home thought to myself " God must be punishing me." How could she be so bad and how could I have the luck of running into the fucking counselor in this greasy spoon miles from civilization. Lesson learned.Though temporary only as I loved the trill of the chase. Enjoy the thrill while it lasts Spats. Once it is over. Its over forever. Then its "honey, please dont forget the Blue Moon on the way home". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Wow! spats, you stood her up man. That could be very emotionally hurtful to the other person. "No Rules" BS like Rock said it's called common courtesy which there seems to be less and less of these days. You sir? are a coward!. Look rejection is a fact of life there is no one I've ever met that hasn't been rejected for something including me. I've been turned down, turned around, turned over, turned upside down and turned inside out and I'm still around. No gay references about that last line guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock Action Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Wow! spats, you stood her up man. That could be very emotionally hurtful to the other person. "No Rules" BS like Rock said it's called common courtesy which there seems to be less and less of these days. You sir? are a coward!. Look rejection is a fact of life there is no one I've ever met that hasn't been rejected for something including me. I've been turned down, turned around, turned over, turned upside down and turned inside out and I'm still around. No gay references about that last line guys You didn't mention being skewered, so it's safe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Dzldoc and ICQYB, you guys are killin' me. I've been laughing out loud. We may be tryin' to help spats, but my headache is gone! (and I don't mean anything naughty by that). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock Action Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Not to mention the embarrasment of having to sit through a meal with a woman 5 inches taller than me and that fell from the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down You went out with her too? :hysterical: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I am still laughing my ass off. That is the best blind date story I've ever heard. Beats the hell outta mine: the dude stuck his tongue dwon my throat in a Starbucks parking lot, opened his van door to reveal his overnight bag (packed and ready), and I jumped in my car and got the HELL outta there! That was the first and last blind date for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 You went out with her too? Drink More! Beer! http://www.ebaumsworld.com/flash/play/766/# Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icantquityoubabe Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 You went out with her too? :hysterical: 5 minute drive to her trashy apartment in fuciking downtown Petticoat Junction. She could have beat Yau Ming one on one blind folded. A true amazon! But dumb ass me being raised in a Cathoic school with class, had to be Mr Nice Guy. Dont remember her name but her daddy should have named her Easy. i was back on my computer. Wiser from the experience. And as horny and desperate as I was, I just couldnt! That is why they make alchohol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Drink More! Beer! http://www.ebaumsworld.com/flash/play/766/# Okay, now THAT'S silly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fenderguy Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Workplace has never been a problem? I wouldnt want to do that because the women where i work aren't my type and if you break up with the person it could be uncomforable at work. Sometimes you can end up really attracted to someone you work with. You already have something in common, and you can make friendships that can develope into more than that. It certainly can be more complicated sometimes. But it does work out ok for some people. That being said, the longest term relationships I have had were through people I knew who knew someone else. Parties, mutual friends, etc. I met my wife at a party that a mutual friend threw for someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fenderguy Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Dzldoc and ICQYB, you guys are killin' me. I've been laughing out loud. We may be tryin' to help spats, but my headache is gone! (and I don't mean anything naughty by that). Good sex will make you forget all about a headache. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Good sex will make you forget all about a heaache. I had some a couple of weeks ago. For tonight, comedy does the trick! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternal light Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Sometimes you can end up really attracted to someone you work with. You already have something in common, and you can make friendships that can develope into more than that. It certainly can be more complicated sometimes. But it does work out ok for some people. That being said, the longest term relationships I have had were through people I knew who knew someone else. Parties, mutual friends, etc. I met my wife at a party that a mutual friend threw for someone else. That is what happened to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hermit Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I agree about having to get charged to go into clubs every weekend. That's a pain in the ass. But the girls there are smokin' hot! I have tried to meet girls through friends and for the most part they don't have the greatest taste. The girl at the News Years party was cool but she has been in the minority. I tell them what i am looking for and they know what kind of girl interests me and yet they fail. They set me up with a couple girls on blind dates and i showed up to check them out with them knowing and bailed both times. Not good. And the worst was one time i was supposed to meet them at a downtown theatre. I ended up getting there first and was waiting and eventually see this girl looking at me who was not my physical type at all. And of course she heads over to me, comes up and asks... "are you (insert my real name here) and just on gut instinct i said "No" , she said "oh okay sorry" and then walked away to wait for me to show up. I waited for about 5 minutes and then left. It was sooooooo awkward. That is so uncool. What do you mean your "gut" told you "it wouldn't work out"? You were just going to see a movie, for crying out loud! Are you telling me your "gut" told you that you wouldn't be able to make it through a movie sitting next to this gal? Puh-lease! Are you really that immature, spats? You agreed to the the date; she showed up; you should have seen it through. You owed her that much. There would have been no harm in seeing the movie with her. None! Even if you (think you) knew there wasn't ever going to be a second date, seeing the movie with her would have been the gentlemanly, decent, courteous and mature thing to do. But you chose instead to be an asshole, and you callously stood up a woman who was willing to take a chance on meeting you. She may have been a real sweetheart for all you know. But now.. because you're so incredibly shallow and immature.. you'll never know. Opportunity knocked, and you were too childish to open the door. Fwiw,.. I think its gonna be your karma to keep getting rejected.. over and over and over again.. until you finally wake up (and grow up) and realize that mature love and mature relationships are about so much more than physical appearance. Get into therapy, son. The sooner the better. Oh, btw,.. If you think that was awkward,.. you aint seen nothin yet. Wait until you cross paths with her again while you're with the guy who set up the date for you and she figures out that you lied to her face when you denied you were you. Now that's gonna be awkward! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricmage Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Okay, I heartily disagree. I consider myself fortunate (which doesn't say much about the world we live in) to have not been abused. But I have girlfriends who have been, and they do NOT find it easier. They have struggled all their lives with this issue. My roommate is pretty well schooled when it comes to dealing with things like this. Basically, it can go two ways. The way of Spats (supposedly) or it can make people do the exact opposite. Take porn stars for example. How many porn stars were sexually abused as children? Many, many including Jenna Jameson for example. Things like that will drive people to look for love, or to act out in a sexual nature, due to repressed feelings of their parents, either suffering from the feeling of not being loved, or whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 You know what's funny! I think we may have hijacked spats' thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 My roommate is pretty well schooled when it comes to dealing with things like this. Basically, it can go two ways. The way of Spats (supposedly) or it can make people do the exact opposite. Take porn stars for example. How many porn stars were sexually abused as children? Many, many including Jenna Jameson for example. Things like that will drive people to look for love, or to act out in a sexual nature, due to repressed feelings of their parents, either suffering from the feeling of not being loved, or whatever. Are you telling me that a porn star who has been molested (not that they all have) is having a healthy, uninhibited sexual encounter? Well, anything's possible. Okay guys, someone's gotta say it: some of you have an idea about what it means to be sexually uninhibited that is just plain dumb, to some of us gals. It's like you're only thinking about the acts themselves...well, those are all good, in my book, but it's a mind/body/soul experience and you can't tell me some 18 year old porn star is having a healthy, mature sexual experience. I'm sorry. It's about knowing yourself, and from what I've learned from friends who have been molested, they are actually ROBBED of themselves. It has taken my one friend many years of intensive therapy to get herself back. Even without being molested, sex is a different experience for women. Having been an 18 year old myself (20 years ago) I can tell you that I had no idea how to orgasm with a man, so I faked it. That got old quick, so I (nicely) trained them. We have to do that, it's only right, because the other person doesn't know how it feels for you. And it's okay for you guys to do the same (nicely)! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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