Medhb Posted June 6, 2008 Share Posted June 6, 2008 It would be. About 10 years ago I attended a funeral for a young man that was a street person in the Vancouver area. I can't give you the details as to how I knew him but another collegue and I attended because we felt that no one should leave this earth without someone caring. As it turned out, we were amoung about 300 well wishers that thought the same way. People were lined up on the street We got to meet his family and were told the story as to how he ended up on the streets and why he chose to take that route. Point is, everyone has a story and it should be shared. You don't necessarily have to be in a relationship but, everyones life has significance. Excellent point Ally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted June 6, 2008 Share Posted June 6, 2008 Are you by any chance the guy who has immense problems in finding a girl?NO WONDER!!! I am assuming you have never fallen in love in your life. Feel so sorry for you... If you had, you would know that love is also romance. But I guess, you don't even know what I am talking about. Can someone sweeten up a bit this poor soul, pls... Yes, i am having problems finding a a cool girlfriend. But forthe most part i am not the reason it's not happening. There just aren't that many cool women out there. I have been in love but that stuff you are talking about like "shaking when you hear his voice", "dreaming about him day and night" is nonsense. It's soap opera or romance novel stuff. That's obsession or lust more than anything. I don't think anyone would be able to sweeten me up. I have never really been described as "sweet". Me being "sweet" is not going to improve my dating life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted June 6, 2008 Share Posted June 6, 2008 The only advice I would give is 'lowered expectations' I knew the nicest man, he had his sites on a woman that was totally unattainable by him. Just found out last week he died - alone, in his apartment in Mannhattan. I felt so sad....just hoped he hadn't been there for a week before his body was discovered. Don't know how happy he was when he died...alone. But can one really be happy if they wind up settling for less than they want? Wouldn't it be better to be alone than settle. You don't want to have any regrets in life. It's too bad that dude couldn't get the woman he wanted. I can relate to that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 Give him incentive, lol. Explain "if the living room was neater, i might want to fool around on the floor" for example. I like you're way of thinking Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ally Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 But can one really be happy if they wind up settling for less than they want? Wouldn't it be better to be alone than settle. You don't want to have any regrets in life. It's too bad that dude couldn't get the woman he wanted. I can relate to that. It's not settling. It's called, awareness "You Can't Alway's Get What You Want" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathan Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 Yes, i am having problems finding a a cool girlfriend. But forthe most part i am not the reason it's not happening. There just aren't that many cool women out there. I have been in love but that stuff you are talking about like "shaking when you hear his voice", "dreaming about him day and night" is nonsense. It's soap opera or romance novel stuff. That's obsession or lust more than anything. I don't think anyone would be able to sweeten me up. I have never really been described as "sweet". Me being "sweet" is not going to improve my dating life. I don't know why you say it's a fairy tale. You want proof that this exists? just look at what I had with my last girlfriend. I looked forward to seeing and hearing her every day. When we didn't see each other, we were on the phone for around two hours (she called me more then I called her, but I did call her), but then it was rare for us not to see each other. I loved her, she loved me. No, we aren't dating now, but it's kinda hard to date her while she's in London and I'm over here in down-home Mayreta, Georgia, USA. Her getting into Oxford a year ago sorta ended it... though we still talk for hours every weekend... and that's kept up for over a year. So it's only a fair tale to those who can't find it, spats. I found it, and I think I may find it again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 I know. If my slump lasts much longer i may have to lower my standards when it comes to a girlfriend. Sad but true. Because it's hard finding or meeting women that don't have qualities that annoy me. I may have to settle. But can one really be happy if they wind up settling for less than they want? Wouldn't it be better to be alone than settle. You don't want to have any regrets in life. It's too bad that dude couldn't get the woman he wanted. I can relate to that. Son, I Ask Again "What is You're Major Malfunction?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternal light Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 Yes, i am having problems finding a a cool girlfriend. But forthe most part i am not the reason it's not happening. There just aren't that many cool women out there. I have been in love but that stuff you are talking about like "shaking when you hear his voice", "dreaming about him day and night" is nonsense. It's soap opera or romance novel stuff. That's obsession or lust more than anything. I don't think anyone would be able to sweeten me up. I have never really been described as "sweet". Me being "sweet" is not going to improve my dating life. I'm sure she's out there somewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AMAZONIC Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 I have been in love but that stuff you are talking about like "shaking when you hear his voice", "dreaming about him day and night" is nonsense. It's soap opera or romance novel stuff. That's obsession or lust more than anything. Call it soap opera, obsession, lust or whatever you want to call it, but that's what you feel first when you are in love. You know, the longing for that special person, the desire to be with them all the time, the need to have them in your sight anytime of the day.... Of course, these are the first stages of a love relationship, then it gets a bit less intense and the feelings become more fulfilling and serious in regards to your heart and soul ..still, these "soap opera" feelings do exist. Never ever felt that for anyone????? Quoting LZ : YOU NEED IT ......LOVEEEEE............ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medhb Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 QUOTE (~tangerine~ @ Jun 3 2008, 02:25 AM) Give him incentive, lol. Explain "if the living room was neater, i might want to fool around on the floor" for example. I like you're way of thinking Well, I think that only works if the man is not getting it 'elsewhere'. I mean, why would you want to do it on the floor (especially once you've reached a certain age) when you can get it on a nice comfy mattress, on the kitchen counter, in the shower, etc.... Using sex as a bargaining chip is a cheap shot.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dzldoc Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 QUOTE (~tangerine~ @ Jun 3 2008, 02:25 AM) Give him incentive, lol. Explain "if the living room was neater, i might want to fool around on the floor" for example. Well, I think that only works if the man is not getting it 'elsewhere'. I mean, why would you want to do it on the floor (especially once you've reached a certain age) when you can get it on a nice comfy mattress, on the kitchen counter, in the shower, etc.... Using sex as a bargaining chip is a cheap shot.... Come to think of it, my knees did hurt last time! ...and I did miss the Explain part Gawd I need to get out more Coming to a theatre near you "How Dzldoc Got His Groove Back" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manderlyh Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 ROFL We did it in front of the Christmas tree last year. I just wanted it to be over because I thought my back may have been broken! I think I'm gettin' too old for the floor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boinknsplits Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 QUOTE (~tangerine~ @ Jun 3 2008, 02:25 AM) Give him incentive, lol. Explain "if the living room was neater, i might want to fool around on the floor" for example. Well, I think that only works if the man is not getting it 'elsewhere'. I mean, why would you want to do it on the floor (especially once you've reached a certain age) when you can get it on a nice comfy mattress, on the kitchen counter, in the shower, etc.... Using sex as a bargaining chip is a cheap shot.... Boink: Did that bimbo say cheap... Splits: Yeah, cheap, cheap, cheap now were talking, pant pant lick lick. Boink: What's wrong with cheap n nasty. Splits: Not a thing, heeee pant lick, run fart. Boink: YEAH CHEAP AND NASTY AND GREASY. Let the naysayers be jealous... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 I'm sure she's out there somewhere. Why do you find that funny. In Toronto there is not a lot of cool women to choose from. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 Call it soap opera, obsession, lust or whatever you want to call it, but that's what you feel first when you are in love. You know, the longing for that special person, the desire to be with them all the time, the need to have them in your sight anytime of the day.... Of course, these are the first stages of a love relationship, then it gets a bit less intense and the feelings become more fulfilling and serious in regards to your heart and soul ..still, these "soap opera" feelings do exist. Never ever felt that for anyone????? Quoting LZ : YOU NEED IT ......LOVEEEEE............ That must be a woman thing then because I have never met a guy or known a guy that shook when he heard his girlfriends voice (not in a positve way anyways. ).or dreamt about her all day and night. No woman could ever make that stuff happen to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 It's not settling. It's called, awareness "You Can't Alway's Get What You Want" In other words "settle for what you can get". That sounds depressing to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ally Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 In other words "settle for what you can get". That sounds depressing to me. No, accept who you are. Get what you need Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 No, accept who you are. Get what you need I accept who i am and I need a cool, hot looking girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ally Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 I accept who i am and I need a cool, hot looking girl. Get back to us when that happens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ledbaby Posted June 7, 2008 Share Posted June 7, 2008 I accept who i am and I need a cool, hot looking girl. Boy do I have a magazine for you, oh yeah you have all of them. :hysterical: "If you think it, is it not so?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spats Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 Boy do I have a magazine for you, oh yeah you have all of them. :hysterical: "If you think it, is it not so?" Well, she said to try and get what you need and that's what i need in my life. A cool, pretty girl. That would make me a lot happier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hickory Man Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 Well, she said to try and get what you need and that's what i need in my life. A cool, pretty girl. That would make me a lot happier. Ally's a dude. Your perception of people speaks volumes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ally Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 Ally's a dude. Your perception of people speaks volumes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ledbaby Posted June 8, 2008 Share Posted June 8, 2008 Well, she said to try and get what you need and that's what i need in my life. A cool, pretty girl. That would make me a lot happier. According to your posts it's your viewpoint to be oxymoronic and what you really need is a shrink. Not a chick. :hysterical: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmie ray Posted June 9, 2008 Share Posted June 9, 2008 We did it in front of the Christmas tree last year. That one sounds nice, but never works out. The little choo choo keeps getting knocked off the tracks, and those tree needles get into the darndest places... Oh, tannenbaum! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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